Happiness is a state of mind

When I aske people if they are fine, they usually reply by saying yes..... When i ask them if they are happy they take a minute to think about the answer..... Why is that? Is it really that hard to be happy???? So then i ask what is this happiness? is it different from being contented or is contentment just a part of happiness.... or is it the beginning of happiness????

the problem is that I have all these questions swirling about in my mind. So I ask myself the question "I'm I happy?". The truthful answer is that I dont know. Sometimes I am joyous and contented with my life and sometimes I just want more and sometimes I want what I cant have.... Most of us do sometimes............




Happiness is a state of mind or feeling characterized by contentment, love, satisfaction, pleasure, or joy.

A couple of weeks ago I was sooo happy, but I've been happy with an uncertainity or should I say with a certainity that the happiness would not last for much longer.

I wonder how we can make sure we keep being happy without the fear of it going soon.
I also wonder if happiness is different from contentedness??? i feel when you're contented, its much easier to be happy.

Am I wrong?

Today was a Fairytale

So whats up with me and that song? I played the song on my laptop all night long and I woke up listening to it. I listened to it as I had my bath, and as I got ready for church, and after the church service I brought out my blackberry and continued......

Its just me being plain silly... or not. None of my days have been like a fairytale lately... So maybe I'm craving a fairytale Love lol. Music can sometimes be deceiving, it makes you think you can do anything and feel anything but in reality it doesn't usually work out that way.

I'm actually listening to the song as I type this blog....

Today was a Fairytale... You were the prince, I used to be a damsel in distress
Today was a Fairytale... I wore a dress, you wore a dark grey T-shirt
Today was a Fairytale... Time slows down whenever you're around
Today was a Fairytale... You've got a smile that takes me to another Planet
Can you feel this Magic in the air............

Today was a Fairytale

Iwant, Iseek, Ifind

Someone asked me today if I knew what I wanted??? Initially I couldn't answer the question..... Okay it was my Pastor.

He then said some people think they know what they want, but they don't. Some don't know what they want and are usually confused.

Some people have what they want right in front of them, but they don't even know it.
So I think I've found what I'm looking for or what I've been looking for..... What then happens if I'm not wanted back???

I actually asked him "what if I find what I want but I'm not wanted back?". He said in all things seek God. If you want something you tell God, if its yours, then He will make it available.

I want to be a great wife to my Husband and Wonderful and Loving Mother to my children.

I shall seek God's face.

Happy mother's day.

God, Life and Love

God Talk

A day without prayer is a boast against God.

A critical attitude can hinder your walk with God, and distract you from God's purposes for your life

If you want to know what God is doing, read the bible.. (B)asic (I)nstructions (b)efore (l)eaving (e)arth

Feeling sad? Scream, Shout! Laugh! (Put on the garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness) - Isaiah 61:3


Life Talk

Buckle up, suck it up, tuff up, knuckle up & shut up.. life's tuff, PERIOD

Perfectionism is self abuse to the highest degree... If everything has to be right.. something isn't

Hope and faith sees the invisible, feels the intangible, and achieves the impossible

True strength is NOT showy or boastful, true strength is quiet, calm and intensely effective - (R.Marston)

You don't have to be great at the start,, but u have to start to be great - Ziglar

When you're a professional, you come back no matter what happened the day before -(B. Martin)


If you have to make an important decision,, make your OWN! You'll NEVER regret your decision as much as someone making it for you.

Relationship Talk

Seek God's consent everytime you get into a relationship, constantly seek God to Bless the relationship

Choose your life's mate carefully, from this one decision will come 90% of your happiness or misery

If a relationship ends..(don't sweat it!) Forgive,, let live,,.. move up & move on..

Alone doesn't necessarily mean lonely..Give yourself time to heal or recover.

Relationships will hurt you sometimes.... Cry a river, build a bridge & get over it!

When it comes to relationships:: Never hold on to someone who doesn't want to be held..

Plant a seed of love & dedication to a GOOD woman,,, reap a bouquet of happiness

If you seek love & find it,, that's cool,,, but when it catches u unaware... sweeeeeeet

Ladies:: NEVER be to needy. It attracts bad relationships, bad deals, swindlers & con men

Its very verrrrrry easy to fall in love,,,, the only problem is finding someone to catch you

Many couple mistakenly plan a fairy tale wedding,, when the real focus should be a fairy tale life together

Sometimes you've gotta let go, just to see if there was anything worth holding on to.. real talk

Love again with all your might,, face ur fears, and you'll gain strength

When your fishing for Love, bait with your heart not with your brain

All in all, seek God in all that you do.....

Money Money Money...... In a Rich man's World

As I grow older I become more money conscious.... I ask myself, have I been saving enough? I'm I being prudent with my spending? I'm I making the right profit on my business? I'm I investing wisely? I just bombard my brain with all these questions all day everyday.

Why is money soo important? Never mind the question, there are a trillion different answers to the question.

So here it comes "Money and relationships!!!!" why is it that in some relationships money is a forbidden subject?? ( I would really like an answer for that) Is it that both parties are afraid of what they might find out about their partners' finances.

I believe that for a relationship to flourish and grow they shouldn't be any secrets be it financial or not (some may disagree). So if you have any financial problems or difficulties it shouldn't be kept from your partner or perspective partner. Shall I add that this occurs more in a man's world. Money is in inverted commas to them, its like a no go area; a DO NOT TOUCH kind of thing. I think it has to do with their silly egos, so they always feel the need to keep the woman in the dark.


You need to realise that you have to work in partnership, and that is the only way forward.... (Full stop)

Tell it Like it is!

Smoke And Ashes- Tracy Chapman

I'd heard rumors and I'd heard talk
About the trail you'd left of broken hearts
About the sea of tears too wide to cross
But a little bad press has never scared me off
So I burned a path to figure out
How to get me some of what you got

I've got a red hot heart
If the talk is true yours is the same
And we should be together
And let our passions fan Love's flame

When I looked for you I almost passed you by
You were so cool and calm I thought my friends had lied
But I thought so much reserve must make you wild inside
It was there and then that I knew I had to get some of what you got

I've got a red hot heart
If the talk is true yours is the same
And we should be together
And let our passions fan Love's flame

I thought I'd won your heart when I held you hand in mine
I thought it was true love the way we complemented each other
But my right is your wrong
And when you're right then I'm left with nothing
Your light and your heat have all been spent
Leaving only smoke and ashes
Only smoke and ashes baby

I've got a red hot heart
Any your heart's as blue as the blood in your veins
I say there's fire down below
You say it's only smoke and ashes baby

I'm crying all the time
Salty stinging tears
And mourning for the past carbon-dated years
But knowing now for certain that you were always right
Because if a breeze could blow you out of my life
Its only smoke and ashes baby
Only smoke and ashes baby

I've got a red hot heart
And your heart's as blue as the blood in your veins
I say there's fire down below
You say it's only smoke and ashes baby

I was blinded by devotion
My unwavering love for you
So blinded that I thought all your lies were true
But now I know for certain since you've gone away
It was just a smoldering fire I mistook for a blaze
Only smoke and ashes baby

I've got a red hot heart
And your heart's as blue as the blood in your veins
I say there's fire down below
You say it's only smoke and ashes baby
Only smoke and ashes baby, baby ...

Being Alone

I was just lying down and I thought to myself, why is it that people are always scared to be alone? Being alone is not a bad thing at some point in time, it gives you room to reflect on your life. What you want and what you can get from life in general.

Being alone gives you time to love yourself,correct your previous mistakes and improve on yourself. It allows you look at the world in another light, and have bigger perspective on the world. Being alone is not as bad as it seems.

So I'm having people tell me to spice up my life or better still they would like to spice up my life... I know I can be a bit boring, but that's not a bad thing per say. Or is it?

I'm loving every moment of my singlehoodness. lol if there is something called that..