Happiness is a state of mind

When I aske people if they are fine, they usually reply by saying yes..... When i ask them if they are happy they take a minute to think about the answer..... Why is that? Is it really that hard to be happy???? So then i ask what is this happiness? is it different from being contented or is contentment just a part of happiness.... or is it the beginning of happiness????

the problem is that I have all these questions swirling about in my mind. So I ask myself the question "I'm I happy?". The truthful answer is that I dont know. Sometimes I am joyous and contented with my life and sometimes I just want more and sometimes I want what I cant have.... Most of us do sometimes............




Happiness is a state of mind or feeling characterized by contentment, love, satisfaction, pleasure, or joy.

A couple of weeks ago I was sooo happy, but I've been happy with an uncertainity or should I say with a certainity that the happiness would not last for much longer.

I wonder how we can make sure we keep being happy without the fear of it going soon.
I also wonder if happiness is different from contentedness??? i feel when you're contented, its much easier to be happy.

Am I wrong?

Today was a Fairytale

So whats up with me and that song? I played the song on my laptop all night long and I woke up listening to it. I listened to it as I had my bath, and as I got ready for church, and after the church service I brought out my blackberry and continued......

Its just me being plain silly... or not. None of my days have been like a fairytale lately... So maybe I'm craving a fairytale Love lol. Music can sometimes be deceiving, it makes you think you can do anything and feel anything but in reality it doesn't usually work out that way.

I'm actually listening to the song as I type this blog....

Today was a Fairytale... You were the prince, I used to be a damsel in distress
Today was a Fairytale... I wore a dress, you wore a dark grey T-shirt
Today was a Fairytale... Time slows down whenever you're around
Today was a Fairytale... You've got a smile that takes me to another Planet
Can you feel this Magic in the air............

Today was a Fairytale

Iwant, Iseek, Ifind

Someone asked me today if I knew what I wanted??? Initially I couldn't answer the question..... Okay it was my Pastor.

He then said some people think they know what they want, but they don't. Some don't know what they want and are usually confused.

Some people have what they want right in front of them, but they don't even know it.
So I think I've found what I'm looking for or what I've been looking for..... What then happens if I'm not wanted back???

I actually asked him "what if I find what I want but I'm not wanted back?". He said in all things seek God. If you want something you tell God, if its yours, then He will make it available.

I want to be a great wife to my Husband and Wonderful and Loving Mother to my children.

I shall seek God's face.

Happy mother's day.

God, Life and Love

God Talk

A day without prayer is a boast against God.

A critical attitude can hinder your walk with God, and distract you from God's purposes for your life

If you want to know what God is doing, read the bible.. (B)asic (I)nstructions (b)efore (l)eaving (e)arth

Feeling sad? Scream, Shout! Laugh! (Put on the garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness) - Isaiah 61:3


Life Talk

Buckle up, suck it up, tuff up, knuckle up & shut up.. life's tuff, PERIOD

Perfectionism is self abuse to the highest degree... If everything has to be right.. something isn't

Hope and faith sees the invisible, feels the intangible, and achieves the impossible

True strength is NOT showy or boastful, true strength is quiet, calm and intensely effective - (R.Marston)

You don't have to be great at the start,, but u have to start to be great - Ziglar

When you're a professional, you come back no matter what happened the day before -(B. Martin)


If you have to make an important decision,, make your OWN! You'll NEVER regret your decision as much as someone making it for you.

Relationship Talk

Seek God's consent everytime you get into a relationship, constantly seek God to Bless the relationship

Choose your life's mate carefully, from this one decision will come 90% of your happiness or misery

If a relationship ends..(don't sweat it!) Forgive,, let live,,.. move up & move on..

Alone doesn't necessarily mean lonely..Give yourself time to heal or recover.

Relationships will hurt you sometimes.... Cry a river, build a bridge & get over it!

When it comes to relationships:: Never hold on to someone who doesn't want to be held..

Plant a seed of love & dedication to a GOOD woman,,, reap a bouquet of happiness

If you seek love & find it,, that's cool,,, but when it catches u unaware... sweeeeeeet

Ladies:: NEVER be to needy. It attracts bad relationships, bad deals, swindlers & con men

Its very verrrrrry easy to fall in love,,,, the only problem is finding someone to catch you

Many couple mistakenly plan a fairy tale wedding,, when the real focus should be a fairy tale life together

Sometimes you've gotta let go, just to see if there was anything worth holding on to.. real talk

Love again with all your might,, face ur fears, and you'll gain strength

When your fishing for Love, bait with your heart not with your brain

All in all, seek God in all that you do.....

Money Money Money...... In a Rich man's World

As I grow older I become more money conscious.... I ask myself, have I been saving enough? I'm I being prudent with my spending? I'm I making the right profit on my business? I'm I investing wisely? I just bombard my brain with all these questions all day everyday.

Why is money soo important? Never mind the question, there are a trillion different answers to the question.

So here it comes "Money and relationships!!!!" why is it that in some relationships money is a forbidden subject?? ( I would really like an answer for that) Is it that both parties are afraid of what they might find out about their partners' finances.

I believe that for a relationship to flourish and grow they shouldn't be any secrets be it financial or not (some may disagree). So if you have any financial problems or difficulties it shouldn't be kept from your partner or perspective partner. Shall I add that this occurs more in a man's world. Money is in inverted commas to them, its like a no go area; a DO NOT TOUCH kind of thing. I think it has to do with their silly egos, so they always feel the need to keep the woman in the dark.


You need to realise that you have to work in partnership, and that is the only way forward.... (Full stop)

Tell it Like it is!

Smoke And Ashes- Tracy Chapman

I'd heard rumors and I'd heard talk
About the trail you'd left of broken hearts
About the sea of tears too wide to cross
But a little bad press has never scared me off
So I burned a path to figure out
How to get me some of what you got

I've got a red hot heart
If the talk is true yours is the same
And we should be together
And let our passions fan Love's flame

When I looked for you I almost passed you by
You were so cool and calm I thought my friends had lied
But I thought so much reserve must make you wild inside
It was there and then that I knew I had to get some of what you got

I've got a red hot heart
If the talk is true yours is the same
And we should be together
And let our passions fan Love's flame

I thought I'd won your heart when I held you hand in mine
I thought it was true love the way we complemented each other
But my right is your wrong
And when you're right then I'm left with nothing
Your light and your heat have all been spent
Leaving only smoke and ashes
Only smoke and ashes baby

I've got a red hot heart
Any your heart's as blue as the blood in your veins
I say there's fire down below
You say it's only smoke and ashes baby

I'm crying all the time
Salty stinging tears
And mourning for the past carbon-dated years
But knowing now for certain that you were always right
Because if a breeze could blow you out of my life
Its only smoke and ashes baby
Only smoke and ashes baby

I've got a red hot heart
And your heart's as blue as the blood in your veins
I say there's fire down below
You say it's only smoke and ashes baby

I was blinded by devotion
My unwavering love for you
So blinded that I thought all your lies were true
But now I know for certain since you've gone away
It was just a smoldering fire I mistook for a blaze
Only smoke and ashes baby

I've got a red hot heart
And your heart's as blue as the blood in your veins
I say there's fire down below
You say it's only smoke and ashes baby
Only smoke and ashes baby, baby ...

Being Alone

I was just lying down and I thought to myself, why is it that people are always scared to be alone? Being alone is not a bad thing at some point in time, it gives you room to reflect on your life. What you want and what you can get from life in general.

Being alone gives you time to love yourself,correct your previous mistakes and improve on yourself. It allows you look at the world in another light, and have bigger perspective on the world. Being alone is not as bad as it seems.

So I'm having people tell me to spice up my life or better still they would like to spice up my life... I know I can be a bit boring, but that's not a bad thing per say. Or is it?

I'm loving every moment of my singlehoodness. lol if there is something called that..

Stay Or Let it Go....

What do you do when you meet someone you really like but.......

I really hate the conjunction "but", it just adds grief to a sentence for me.
So yeah, there is this cute, outspoken guy I recently met and am dying to be his all, but he has a girlfriend (I was tempted to put a sad face)lol

So what exactly do you do when you find out that the guy you were already fantasizing and daydreaming about has a woman? Do you put on your brave face and see where it goes or do you just let it go.

The thing is I don't really know the answer to the question. However, I know that your age, how you think the guy in question feels about you and also how he feels about his girlfriend has to be considered. Also, you have to remember the rule of Karma, and please ladies don't go out of your way to get him. Don't do something stupid like get pregnant or force yourself on him or better still jazz him up ( Am serious)!

I think you are allowed to do things like give him equal attention. For example if he calls you, then you call him. He sends a text, you send a text back and so on.

Just let him know how you feel. You never know, He might just feel the same way!

Hey Lover boy am still waiting for that call.....

My dearest Blog

I haven't been here in what seems like forever. Been too busy with Work, Family and plenty other stuff.
I must say that I missed you and as I type my silver keyboard I can feel this joy from within. I'm actually smiling as I type absolutely nothing. I'm quite tired of all this no fuel issue, i think I let it get to me. Also, What's up with all these brutal killings and murdering of people in this country smh(SHAKING MY HEAD). Some countries are dying from natural disasters and Nigerians are busy creating man-made disasters!!!lol
So much to do in a day and sooo little hours to get it done.
This is one of the things that make me happy...... Knowing that I can write to you and you wont judge me.
I learned new and important things this past couple of days and I'm glad. For instance, letting things happen naturally
Off to bed.........

Give Me One Reason By Tracy Chapman

Give me one reason to stay here - and I'll turn right back around
Give me one reason to stay here - and I'll turn right back around
Said I don't want leave you lonely
You got to make me change my mind

Baby I got your number and I know that you got mine
But you know that I called you, I called too many times
You can call me baby, you can call me anytime
But you got to call me

Give me one reason to stay here - and I'll turn right back around
Give me one reason to stay here - and I'll turn right back around
Said I don't want leave you lonely
You got to make me change my mind

I don't want no one to squeeze me - they might take away my life
I don't want no one to squeeze me - they might take away my life
I just want someone to hold me and rock me through the night

This youthful heart can love you yes and give you what you need
I said this youthful heart can love you and give you what you need
But I'm too old to go chasing you around
Wasting my precious energy

Give me one reason to stay here - and I'll turn right back around
Give me one reason to stay here - and I'll turn right back around
Said, I don't want leave you lonely
You got to make me change my mind

Baby just give me one reason - Give me just one reason why
Baby just give me one reason - Give me just one reason why I should stay
Said I told you that I loved you
And there ain't no more to say

2010 baby. We made it!

2010 baby!!! A year of fulfillment, joy, unlimited happiness, favour in the eyes of God and man.

I say a big congratulations to everyone who made it to this new decade. It shall be the beginning of new things, new hopes and new dreams in our lives. A big thank you to my Family, friends, loved ones and well- wishers, I wish you all that you wish yourselves in this new year. May all your dreams come to reality.

Live, love, and be merry because life is too short. Do what makes you happy because that opportunity may never come again. At some point in one's life you may think you've done so many things wrong, and you don't know how you can do right. That's why I think as human beings we are very lucky we usually get second chances so far we are still on the earth. Please people, live your lives to the fullest.

To all those who didn't make it, I know that you are in a better place and you will live on in our hearts. Even though we can never know what you're up to, and we can't exactly check up on you. We hope that you are okay and resting in God's Bosom.

When I think about how your life was cut short,I can't help but cry. I know you must have had dreams, hopes and plans but it never came to past. Then I think about you, and I realise we drifted apart and I said we'll catch up when I move back; when I finally moved back we never got that chance. Every time I think about you tears well up in my eyes because I realise that you're no more with us, I can't call you on a phone or write you a letter.

Remember those days of Secondary school when you helped me with my exams especially Maths and Economics. You were the intelligent Bunmi, and I was the playful and unserious Bunmi. I remember how you dealt with some of my friends when they were nasty or rude to you.

Dear Bunmi, we started 2009 together, but we didn't see it end together. I can't say Happy new Year to you and it breaks my heart...

Gone to Soon my Nephew.....

I love you, but God loves you more.
R.I.P Olubunmi Adegboyega Onanubi( Bunmi Onanubi Boy)